I commented and thought that was the end of it (famous last thoughts). But then I got to thinking and thought it would make a good blog post.
Then I got to thinking some more and thought it would make a blog series – it seems I have a lot of ideas about attractiveness! So, for what it’s worth, here’s my first set of musings on what makes a man attractive (at least, to me).
First up, I love a good smile.
Now, I know that these two guys are both physically attractive, as well as good smilers, but bear with me, because I put it to you that the smile is a vital part of the attractiveness.
Yes, it’s true that John Barrowman is almost ridiculously tall, dark and handsome; he’s a 30’s matinée idol out-of-time. But while David Tennant is fairly tall, he’s also blonde and thin with sharp features. Yet he convincingly played Cassanova and, as Doctor Who, drew legions of fangirls to the show for reasons quite apart from the tight writing and cool monsters.
When both of these guys smile, they really put the fun into it. There is a gleeful, cheeky, love of life in their smiles that is infectious. In the case of both the Dr Who and Captain Jack characters it’s often because they’re about to do something dangerous, reckless and (consequently) fun, and that cheerful recklessness is part of the appeal. But I’ve seen both of them in other roles and the smile is the same. And it’s just appealing without the recklessness.
It’s a smile that says I’m in this moment, fully, and milking it for all that it’s worth. It says I’m up for a laugh, I’m open to being amused and I want to have fun. There is so much gloom in the world, lord knows we need a laugh and people willing to see the funny side are incredibly attractive.The flip side of this is that both of them also do intense seriousness really well. They both have that ability to hold eye contact with the other character in a way that makes it seem that the other character is their only focus. It makes sense, really. If you are able and willing to be fully present to fun, you can also be fully invested in what is serious. And that level of focussed attention? Sexy as hell.
I have no idea what either of these guys is like in real life, although, purely for research purposes, and in the interests of my readers, I would be very willing to find out.* (Lads? If you are reading, please take note!)
In the meantime (since the chances of them being among my blog readers is slim), I’ll class as sexy anyone with a wide smile, a capacity for enjoying life and a willingness to pay attention to me.
What about you? What do you find sexy?
*And yes, I know John Barrowman is gay. And David Tennant is married (I think). This in no way affects my willingness to get to know them better. Purely for research purposes, natch!